The hell of the living is not something that will be; if there is one, it is what is already here, the hell we live in every day, that we make by being together. There are two ways to escape suffering it. The first is easy for many: accept the hell, and become such a part of it that you can no longer see it. The second is risky and demands constant vigilance and apprehension: seek and learn to recognize who and what, in the midst of hell, are not hell, then make them endure, give them space. –Italo Calvino

I am married to Thomaz. We have two sons: Tadeu (July 2014) and Antonio John (June 2016). My sister is Rachel. My ‘brother’ is Diogo (also a psycholinguist!).

A great and unexpected gift in my life was singing in the choir at the All Souls Church Unitarian from 2013-2023. An even more unexpected gift has been to rejoin the Catholic church, at Holy Redeemer.